Never get more than 6 feet apart. BIG rule. BIG. If you chose to ignore then the next swim you would have a 4 inch hawser (rope) 6 foot long looped around your necks.
When you are swimming a mile or more in the ocean… and at night… and underwater?? You need your swim buddy close so you can concentrate on your compass and navigating to your target. I preferred to keep my hand on my swim buddy’s left hip, making sure he always knew where I was.
Swimming alone can be real dangerous. It was beat into our heads. This is why I go nuts when on a dive boat and everybody scatters. They have no clue. I do. SEALs do.
Marriage really demands the same respect. But we don’t get it when we are young. And it is often too late when we are old. Hah! I bet you women want to really trust us and know where we are at all times. But… we want our independence and the thrill of a little flirt once in a while?
We should be going to church together. We should always take our kids to things together. Kids should know togetherness. They should feel you are their swim buddy too. Trust.
My wife drives me nuts wanting to know where I am every minute. Maybe that is the way it is supposed to be?
Maybe what they taught us in the Navy is really more profound. All was about trust. Going into foreign places where danger exists requires trust, a lot of training, and deep trust.
We all have our friends we think we trust. Some we have known a long time. Some talk behind our backs. You don’t know who you can really trust until there is a real test. One has to care more for the other person than self. You know it when it exists. The hawser teaches trust. It keeps you close.
Life is one big swim through all kinds of eddies and turbulent currents, even enormous waves that capsize you. When you have been sucked to the depths and come up coughing water and gasping for a breath, your swim buddy is at your side. Then you know trust. Maybe even love.
Kick, stroke, check your compass, check your depth. That hand is on your hip. That marriage is there for the kids and…. Yourself. That is real living, real family. All else is a delusion.
Ultimately, partners die or leave.
There is always one swim buddy you can count on.
You can read about Him in the New Testament.